In vitro fertilization (IVF) is when those who can’t conceive naturally can do so when another person’s eggs (fertilized with sperm) are either implanted or frozen in a woman’s uterus. While this process may be a solution for some couples, it can be a financial and or emotional burden to others. Infertility is already an issue to said couples that worry about emotional and financial caveats of this process, which is understandable. If this sounds like you or someone you know, you’re not alone.
In this article, we’ll look at the signs of couples struggling with infertility and IVF, and then conclude with practical solutions that involve self-care and wellbeing as you and your loved one overcome this obstacle in life
First, we’ll explore the signs:
Unable To Talk
“Talking about infertility and IVF can take a toll on someone, resulting in them refraining from talking about it,” says Lily Graebner, a writer at Paper Fellows. “However, social support can do wonders for those suffering from infertility and IVF. By talking about your feelings, you’re able to lessen the burden of having IVF. And, you and your spouse will be more open to each other rather than have emotions get in the way of your relationship.”
Varying Times Of Grief
While some people will get over the tragic memories right away, other won’t let go easily. In fact, there are emotional stages that people go through in grief, especially when it comes to infertility and IVF.
Overwhelmed By IVF
Stress can take its toll on someone – the same is true for infertility and IVF. Simply grasping at the fact that you’re unable to conceive naturally can eat away at your self-esteem. This flood of hurt feelings, broken dreams, and sadness can sour a good day and drain you of energy.
Stress During Decision Making
IVF can even cause stress, because it’s a long and grueling process. To make matters worse, the average cost of the treatment in the U.S. is $12,000. Diving head-first into treatment can trap you between a paywall and a mental hard place. With many decisions to make during the process, you and your loved one will feel overwhelmed by the data, how they want to do the process can be pressuring.
Changes In Intimacy And Sex
Infertility is never a fun thing. In fact, this can discourage couples from trying to conceive, because they don’t want to leave with more disappointment when they see that they can’t conceive. Even sexual intercourse can be hopeless when you see that nothing will come from it. This affects how intimate you are with your partner.
A Silver Lining
Despite the pressures that can come from infertility and IVF, some couples can actually grow from their experiences. By going through the struggle together, they’re able to share their experiences with others, and become a learning resource for others who might be going through the crises.
Fortunately, there’s a lot you can do to prevent IVF from overwhelming you and your loved ones:
It’s okay to start about your feelings. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Look to family, friends, mentors, etc. for help.
- Understand That Decision Making Can Be Difficult
Don’t pressure yourself when you go to make a decision, especially in your IVF treatment. While decision making may take a while, the wait is totally worth it!
- Connect Outside Of IVF
Believe it or not, there’s more to life than IVF. That’s why it’s important to do things and hang out with people outside of IVF – outside of even talking about it. Create a space where you can draw, color, create, etc.
- Seek Psychiatric Help
Finally, if you need additional help, then that’s okay too. Counselors and psychologists are there to help those who need mental enlightenment and solace in their lives. Remember: You’re not being weak for seeking help for your IVF stress.
Ultimately, IVF can be a godsend for some, but can also be detrimental to others. Therefore, step back and reflect on what has happened so far in your grieving process, along with your ongoing process in IVF. What can be done to ensure your happiness?
By taking the time to reflect on your IVF, you and your partner can make better decisions, keep emotions in check, and be a living example for those who might be suffering from IVF.